May 08

May 08

“Stuck In the ‘Friend Zone

MNF Tells You to Get Out”

       Attention! Here’s the scoop. As most of you guys may or may not know, we girls have a process we mentally put you through when first meet you. We try to feel you out to see if he’s going to be boyfriend material, friend material, or just that guy we call when we’re bored. And we all also know that once you’re in one category it’s hard to for you to shift gears into another.  If you want to make sure you stay in the driver’s seat with that sexy vixen you just met, take our advice, and you won’t drive into the “he’s just a friend” lane to begin with.

Kendra Nguyen

Avoid the “friend’s zone” by always paying for your date. This lets us know that you want to be more than just friends.

Arline Morales

So, of course you want to know if she feels the same way you do; here is a little trick to help you find out! The next time you guys hug, as she is pulling away, keep holding her and look her in the eyes and tell her how you feel about her, or simply say, “You’re gorgeous”. It will either end in a kiss or an “oh….” If it’s the later, just laugh it off and say “Ha ha, just kidding insert insult”. For example, “pig nose.” This way she will believe that you were kidding. Then DO NOT be awkward just be normal and everything will be okay with your friendship.  But hopefully it will end in the kiss. Best of Luck.

Leah Perzichilli

   In my opinion one of the best things a guy can do to avoid getting thrown right into the friend’s category is communicate. There have been several times where I have had a crush on someone but didn’t feel they were interested so I didn’t bother pursuing anything with them. Guys if you like a girl let her know. Make sure she realizes that you really value her friendship and would like the opportunity to take the relationship to the next level.

Kristinna Donsy

  I can automatically tell when I first meet a guy if he’s boyfriend material or just a friend I can call for some “guy” advice.  I guess you can say that I’m the aggressive type of girl who sees what she wants and goes for it, and I need a man who has the same relationship mentality as I do, blunt, straight forward and right to the point.  So if we are already friends, just go for the kill and be honest about everything.  It shows a girl that you have enough balls for anything and are ready and willing to take up any challenge.  It’s risky to even say anything to the girl because of the friendship, but that totally doesn’ t affect my perspective on the relationship.  There is a huge chance that I would give it a shot because I find it totally attractive and sexy when a guy takes a risk. It shows me how much of a man you can be.

           On the other hand… if you had a previous boyfriend/girlfriend type of a relationship, and want to keep a friendship with the chick, then try to keep things on a “friends” level.  However, things don’t always work that way… relationships usually turn sour because of lying, cheating or maybe both partners are just not compatible with each other.  Lucky for me, I just wasn’t compatible with my previous boyfriends, so it was much easier for us to agree to just be friends.  I get along much better with my ex’s now, and we hardly argue. When we do argue, it’s pretty much just petty friends’ stuff.  That’s because we keep thing s on that level.  Skip the late night rendezvous, put off the one-on-one time with one another until that boyfriend/girlfriend comfort zone turns into the “let’s just be friends” zone.  And for heaven’s sake…STOP the jealous tirades!  If you’re still arguing about other guys dating your prior honey and all you want to do is be her friend, then that’s a different problem that you have within. If you want to stay friends, fix it!!!

           If the situation is that of lying or cheating… well, sorry dude, you’re out of luck.  Kiss your shawty’s ass goodbye!  Overall, just tell her how you feel about her, whether it is that you want a relationship, or that you want to be friends.  So fellas, honesty is really the best policy.  Holla!

Tiara Holmes

Do’s and Don’ts

1. Show her that you are a fun guy to be around on a regular basis. Take interest in the things she likes to do! Not only will that show her you can be a good friend, but she’ll know that you’re an awesome person to be around.

2.  If you find that she is someone that you look at as a friend, treat her as a FRIEND! Don’t try to hook up if you have no intentions of taking the relationship to another level.

3. If you find yourself wanting to be more than friends with her, do fun little gestures that imply that you are interested. Don’t let her place you in the “FRIENDS” category if you don’t want to be there!

4. Don’t try to “hang out” at 3am. That’s sends a very obvious signal! If you like the girl, call her during the day for no apparent reason.

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Angelina Vu

If you’re stuck in the friend zone, there are a few things that you can do to

get yourself out from this dreaded zone. First, as a guy, you need to understand

that no matter how many women you talk to, each one of them will ALWAYS have a

list of what they want in a guy. No matter how many times they claim they don’t,

trust me they have this list.

How a guy can move from being a friend to being considered as boyfriend material

is to find out what the list is for the woman that he is interested in. From

that point, you have a choice of either changing yourself to fit that list or

not to fit that list to become boyfriend material in her eyes. Such changes that

may need to happen can range from anything such as:

-grooming habits (brushing your teeth more so it changes from being green &

fuzzy to shiny white to washing yourself more often to having a clearer

complexion)

-eating habits (not eating with your mouth open and holding your utensils like

an adult are huge no-no in any woman’s book)

-wardrobe upgrade (if you’re still wearing balloon pants like MC Hammer, get to

a personal shopper ASAP!)

-social skills (learning to listen and reply intelligently and not sounding like

a complete idiot or redneck)

Usually the more refined you are, the higher the chance you will have at getting

the attention of the woman you’re interested in. Being a gentleman will also

help you in moving from the friend zone to the boyfriend zone. Every girl wants

to be swept off her feet and the skills of a gentleman are definitely needed.

Examples are opening the door for her, complimenting her on how beautiful she

looks or just being a smart and sweet guy who wants to find more about her for

who she is.